The importance of having sex with ugly girls.
The guys who have the highest physical standards in girls are often beacons of celibacy and insecurity. I don’t think this is a coincidence. When you judge girls like a photo touch-up specialist for Playboy, the gears of your masculinity get jammed by the over-analysis.
I know I’ve discussed the importance of being more lax about what girls look like, but there’s something to be said for going a step further—here are three reasons to not only lower your standards, but to go out of your way to have sex with ugly girls.
1. It takes attractive girls off their pedestal
With all the emphasis guys place on attractive girls, it’s funny to me that having sex with ugly girls feels exactly the same. Talk to you penis the morning after having sex with a girl from Brooklyn and see if that dude cares. He won’t even know what you’re talking about. As a result, having sex with attractive girls is easy for me because I’m just as willing to have sex with an ugly girl, and sometimes more willing if the ugly girl smells good and is feminine. If you’re only chasing the most attractive girls, they feel the imposition, and no matter how smooth you may think you are, it’ll be impossible to hide your neediness.
2.You rise above the need for validation
Let’s say a guy has only had sex with three girls, then he has sex with an ugly girl. Well, that one girl makes up a full 25 percent of the girls he’s been with. So the guy begins to ruminate—maybe he’s the guy who has sex with only ugly girls. Maybe that’s his lot in life. Maybe he’s a loser.
This guy was me during a time in my life when I scrutinized girls the most. As you can see, I wasn’t too good to be with an ugly girl, as I told myself—I was just using girls for validation, and so I was afraid an ugly girl would damage my self-concept. On the other hand, let’s say you’ve been with 100 girls, then you’re with the ugliest girl in the world. That one girl is going to have little-to-no impact on your self-concept. Now I hope you feel like a homo for having second thoughts about talking to a girl because her butt is a little dumpy.
And my story is far from ideal. I was an OCD mess. Always be happy to be with an ugly girl, no matter what your ugly:attractive ratio has been. When you learn to shamelessly and joyfully have sex with ugly girls, life becomes capital F-fun. Not coincidentally, life also becomes a hurricane of sex.
3. You appreciate girls for the right reason
Once you take girls off their pedestal and overcome your need for validation, it becomes much easier to appreciate girls for the right reason: for how they make you feel. A girl’s acne, big nose, or frizzy hair rarely get in the way of that. You know that feminine laugh cute girls have that makes you forget about your desire to kill yourself? Yeah, ugly girls laugh like that, too. You know that sense of female skin that envelopes your being when you get within three feet of a girl? Yeah, ugly girls give that off, too. You know that feeling you get that isn’t total misery when you’re with a girl who has some semblance of self-esteem? Yeah, you get that feeling from ugly girls, too.
I get it. Some girls are boring, miserable, or worst of all, masculine. I’m not telling you to sacrifice your wants to get more notches. You won’t learn anything, anyway. But if you’re passing up opportunities because the first five years of your sexual life revolved around looking and jerking, then I challenge that you don’t even know what you want. In the end, the phrase, “I dunno, dude, she’s not that cute” can often be translated into the phrase, “There are a lot of insecurities coming up for me now that I’m not ready to deal with.”