Masculinity is a healthy male psyche. By healthy, I mean one based primarily on individualism, and by male, I mean one imbued with the natural urges of testosterone, and all it does to sculpt and enrich the brain.
Men become confused about masculinity because of emotions. Do we cut ourselves off from our emotions and become stoic, or do we follow the path of the 90s male and give in to our emotions blindly? Good thing there’s a third way: emotional management. It combines the composure of the stoic, and the emotional literacy like the 90s male. Emotional management is recognizing your emotions, becoming aware of them, learning to sit with them, and using them as fuel for awareness and action.
There has always been a crisis in masculinity, and there always will be. There will always be poor people, too. What you need to be rich is nothing more than knowledge, and the knowledge is available for the price of a Google search. But most men won’t go through the process because they don’t care.
Masculinity is a psychological home. It will feed you and clothe you and support you, no matter what happens to go wrong.
Women are drawn to masculinity in the same way men are drawn to femininity. Women will even take masculinity in the form of another woman, which can be a good place to find it. Fights at lesbian bars resemble Wrestlemania for this reason.
The more masculine you become, the more you are willing to admit you need women in your life, and the more comfortable you are with admitting this.
Approaching girls is the single best way to develop masculinity. In one act of “hello,” you build all the muscles of masculinity. A man who, having approached 10,000 women as himself (directly, honestly, no tricks or lines), will have at least a masculinity in the 90th percentile. Accordingly, it’s safe to assume you have an unhealthy male psyche if you do not talk to a girl who you want to meet.
Having a father isn’t essential for developing masculinity. This is like saying having a father is essential for learning how to climb a mountain. If your father doesn’t know how to climb, there are plenty of guys who do. We blame absent fathers because it’s the low-hanging fruit of talking points.
If you want to take a barometer reading of your masculinity, look no further than your level of satisfaction with work and women.