HOW TO BUILD THE FOUNDATION FOR YOUR PSYCHOLOGY
Man’s Guide to Psychology
As men, we’re bombarded by self-help advice. How to talk to girls, how to choose a purpose, how to develop the right mindset, how to “sort out our lives.”
But all of it misses the point because it’s instruction. It tells us what to do instead of showing us what to do.
Imagine you’re lost on a road trip, so you begin to ask people for directions, but they only tell you where to go. What you really need is a map that shows you where you need to go and other points of interest you didn’t even know existed.
It’s no one’s fault they haven’t shown you the map because, until this book, the map of psychology hasn’t existed.
The Purpose of a Psychological Map
Unifying psychology into a map sounds nice, but why should we care?
To answer this question, let’s take a step back. What are the surface-level qualities of the kind of man we want to be? The kind of man we all feel, deep down, we can be?
Here are a few I can think of:
He’s in control of himself and rarely loses his composure.
He’s capable of handling any problem that comes his way, even if it means forgetting about it and moving on.
He knows what he wants, and he’s capable of achieving it most of the time.
When he sees a woman who he wants to meet, he talks to her.
He can build a healthy relationship with a woman based on sexual chemistry and honesty.
He may not be handsome, but he knows how to make himself look his best.
He prefers peace, but he’s comfortable with conflict.
He has a positive effect on any environment.
He introduces himself to strangers, and he introduces strangers to each other.
He projects strength, even if he isn’t physically strong.
When other men are around him, they find themselves thinking, “Yeah, I need to be more like that.”
It’s my contention that we cannot achieve any of these attributes by focusing on any single attribute itself. If it were that easy, then no man would ever act like an idiot. First we must manage our deeper issues from which a healthy psychology flows, from which these behaviors are the result.
As men, we avoid managing deeper issues and for good reason—there hasn’t been, until now, a structure through which we can manage issues in a predictable way.
I see the mistake of avoiding issues when guys try to get better with women. Most guys think they need to do one thing as opposed to another. Make a certain approach, recite a specific line, kiss her in a certain way. The amount of texting guides available on Men’s Rights sites could fill up a hard drive as big as the Grand Canyon.
Except a lack of psychological foundation impedes our progress from step one. It doesn’t matter what we say to any girl because it’s still us saying it. If we do detach ourselves from the rejection and blindly push through to get some success, we’re unable to create a relationship with a quality girl because we lack the deeper maturity. Our issue with women is only a symptom of a flawed psychology.
Same thing with alcoholics. The compulsive drinking is a symptom of a deeper cause. We do not cure an alcoholic by getting him to put down the drink. This only works for a few weeks at most. He only puts down the drink once he changes the psychology that causes the compulsion.
We can have all the sunlight and water and warm days we could need, but if our soil is desolate, the farm struggles. Psychological unification is the fertile soil of the masculine man.
Once we manage about 80 percent of each of the four branches of our psychology, the above attributes will take care of themselves—they will flow naturally and easily from a unified psychology.
Our issues may seem special, but they are all rooted in one of the four branches of psychology. Every psychological issue—from either the psychoanalytic or cognitive models—fits into my unification of man’s psychology.
To paraphrase Carl Jung: the more personal a problem is, the more universal it is.
And to paraphrase me: the more universal a problem is, the easier it is to overcome.
The History of Philosophy
Restoring a field; rebuilding a civilization.
The common view of philosophy is it’s pointless intellectualism, and the only practical question a philosopher will ever learn is, “would you like fries with that?”
We’ve all heard the jokes.
But that’s only the present state of philosophy. Philosophy is pointless today like chemistry was pointless during the age of alchemy. Just because the field was usurped by superstition didn’t make it useless.
We’re at the tail end of a 350-year phase of deterioration in philosophy. The philosophy you learned in college is the remaining complaints of a field that has emasculated itself.
The History of Philosophy reverses this trend. It conceptualizes and identifies philosophers and their ideas, and how those ideas have built upon each other to create the world you live in. It presents philosophy as a study of integrated concepts based in reality—no different than chemistry, and just as practical.
I’ve compiled more than 100 pages of notes from countless books and lectures. The result is this comprehensive yet simplified resource on philosophy. You’ll learn more from my glossary than you would from a four-year philosophy degree. I would know—I got my BA in philosophy (sorry, dad).
What you will learn from The History of Philosophy:
• The roots of the liberal and conservative ideologies, and why they’re both right (and both wrong).
• Why the epistemological foundations of both religion and skepticism lead to the same political conclusions (not to mention what the hell “epistemological” means).
• How the dominant cultural divide in our world goes back to a 2500-year-old misunderstanding about the nature of change.
• A behind-the-scenes look at current ideological trends including multiculturalism, the Big Three religions, environmentalism, and grad school (you’ll be like Neo—*whoa*—able to see reality for what it is, not as it appears).
• A plain explanation for the divide between collectivism and individualism, and why a psychology based on individualism is the only view of psychology based in reality—understanding this gives the full and proper context to Man’s Guide to Psychology.
• The philosophical foundations to idioms like “everything happens for a reason,” “that’s just your opinion,” “I’m not sure why but it feels right,” “whatever will be will be,” and many others.
The History of Philosophy features:
• More than 100 pages of notes I’ve gathered from countless resources, most notably A History of Philosophy by Wilhelm Windelband, History of Philosophy by Leonard Peikoff, A Story of Philosophy by Will Durant, and A History of Western Philosophy by WT Jones.
• More than 2500 years of philosophy, from Thales through the 20th Century.
• My commentary that summarizes and connects ideas from across the centuries better than any philosophical resource you’ll find.
Socrates was the first philosopher to stress the importance of knowing yourself. But there is no point to knowing yourself unless you also know the world you live in. Otherwise, you’re living in a bubble.
It’s only once you understand the world that you can navigate it, and then build it.
Man’s Guide to Shame
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